The Divorce Act and the Children’s Law Reform Act require you to try to resolve your family issues outside of the court, if possible. There are different types of alternative dispute resolution processes to help you, including negotiation, mediation, arbitration, collaborative law and parenting coordinators. These may not always be appropriate if you are at risk due to family violence.
On this page:
- Parenting Plans
- Negotiation
- Mediation
- Mediation-arbitration
- Collaborative family law
- Parenting Coordination
Parenting Plans
When parents come to an agreement outside of court, it is best to document the arrangement in a parenting plan.
The Parenting Plan Tool from the Department of Justice and the Parenting Plan Guide and Template from AFCC-Ontario are two tools to help parents create their own parenting plans.
For more information about creating a parenting plan, see CLEO’s Steps to Justice.
Negotiation
Negotiations are discussions where you and the other side try to sort out your dispute and come to an agreement. If you can’t negotiate directly because of a bail restriction or for any other reason, you may be able to negotiate through lawyers or a neutral person.
If you can reach an agreement, you need to put the terms that you have agreed to in writing. If you haven’t started a court case, the written agreement that should be prepared is called a Separation Agreement. If a court case has been started, your written agreement is called Minutes of Settlement.
It is important to note that a Separation Agreement may not be enforced by a court if a party did not share all the relevant financial information (financial disclosure) when the agreement was made. Also, it is always best for each of you to get independent legal advice before the agreement is signed to make sure you understand your rights and obligations.
Community Legal Education of Ontario (CLEO) has information on how to negotiate an agreement outside of court and how to make a separation agreement.
Mediation
Mediation is a voluntary, confidential way to resolve family law issues. If you and the other side agree to use mediation, a family mediator can work together with you to resolve your dispute.
There are many benefits to the mediation process, especially for family issues. For example:
- Both sides work together to resolve disagreements.
- Mediators are trained to help you and the other side communicate and negotiate better, which can help in the short and long term.
- The focus in mediation is for you and the other side to create your own solutions.
- Mediation can be more affordable.
- Mediation can also be less stressful than the court process.
Family mediators do not:
- make decisions about how to resolve your issues; or
- provide legal advice.
It is important that you and the other party get the legal advice you need to make informed decisions about your agreement.
Information about free and subsidized mediation services can be found at the Family Law Information Centres (FLIC) at every court location where family cases are heard, or on the Ministry of the Attorney General’s website.
Mediation-arbitration
In some communities in Ontario, paid mediation-arbitration services are available as another way to help people resolve their family law issues.
The steps for this process are:
- First, a mediation-arbitration agreement must be signed before you begin, which includes confirmation that you’ve received independent legal advice.
- Once this document is signed, a professional mediator will help you and the other side agree on your issues and then put them into a written agreement.
If your issues aren’t settled in mediation, you will then begin a separate arbitration process, usually with the same professional. In arbitration, you present your case to the arbitrator and respond to the other side’s case. The other side does the same.
- After the hearing is finished, the arbitrator makes a decision which is called a family arbitration award. The arbitration award must be followed by both you and the other side, and it can be enforced by the Court.
- If either side believes that the arbitrator has made a mistake, you may be able to appeal the decision.
You can find more information on family arbitrations, including mediation-arbitrations, on the Ministry of the Attorney General website.
Collaborative family law
Collaborative family law is an approach to resolving family disputes cooperatively. With collaborative family law, you, the other side, and both of your lawyers must agree in advance in writing that while you are negotiating cooperatively, you will not go to court. You also agree in advance that if this cooperative approach fails, neither of the lawyers will be able to represent you in the court process.
Your lawyers then work together with you and the other side to exchange information and develop an understanding of your needs and expectations.
Once you have this information, you are encouraged to find ways to resolve your issues by agreement. The agreements you make using this team problem-solving approach are then put into a separation agreement.
Where you are unable to come to an agreement through collaborative family law, you can still go to court, but you will need to pay a different lawyer to represent you.
Information about how to find a collaborative family lawyer in your community is available at the Ontario Collaborative Law Federation website.
Parenting Coordination
Parenting Coordination is a process for parents who have a history of serious conflict around parenting issues. Parenting coordination can help to reduce conflict through mediation, parent education and arbitration.
A parenting coordinator is usually a mental health professional or lawyer who has experience with high conflict families, child development and patterns of domestic violence.
Parents who already have a court order or parenting agreement setting out how decisions about children are made and a detailed parenting scheduling can hire a parenting coordinator if they have conflicts over how to put them into practice. Parenting coordinators can make decisions about how to interpret the court orders or agreement.
Parenting coordination aims to keep parents out of the court process and helps to improve communication.
You can find more information about Parenting Coordination at CLEO’s Steps to Justice.